Sacred Sexual Practices - Part 3

ROSEBUD DELIGHTS

POLARITY THERAPY

In Polarity Therapy, a form of bodywork for mind-body integration, the right hand is generally used to send energy, and the left hand to receive it. Just as with genital massage, where one hand stimulates, and the other hand receives at the heart Chakra, your left hand can be placed on different Chakras moving up accentuating the flow. If you are left handed, your left hand can be used to send energy, and your right hand to receive. The idea is to complete a circuit of energy using the polarities of negative and positive or receptive and active, yin and yang.

Use your hands on your partner in the same way to complete a circuit. The secondary Chakras in the palms of the hands are sending and receiving centers. There are also secondary Chakras in the arches of the feet. Briskly rub the palms of your hands together for about twenty seconds. Separate a few inches. Notice the energy flow from your right arm and hand, to your left hand through your left arm through your heart Chakra and around and back through. Relaxing strengthens the flow; open, let go and allow. Be with the stream of this current for a few moments.

In Polarity Therapy, the fingers are also thought to hold the basic elements: index-air, middle-fire, ring-water, little-earth, thumb-ether. Water and fire are a nice blend for G-spot stimulation where as when using one finger for gentle anal stimulation, the air or water finger may be preferable. The middle-fire finger may be too hot and intense, especially at first.

PROSTATE GLAND

The prostate gland is the male counterpart to the G-spot. Emotional release from the second Chakra can be initiated from the same channeling techniques discussed in the section on G-spot. It will be difficult for you to access your prostate digitally, and it is preferable to use a sterile object, just as with the self-stimulating G-spot message. Be sure the object has a round tip and is small enough in diameter yet has a large enough base so it cannot get lost in the rectum. There are special tools sold for these purposes. For prostate stimulation, follow the guidelines for the G-spot. The prostate is in about the same location and has a spongy soft feeling.

MEDITATIONS
SACRED SPACE

Create your sacred space following the guide in Body Exploration Meditations. Include oil, anal stimulator and an extra, thick pillow. Be sure to follow the specifications mentioned earlier when selecting an object.

RELAXATION

Begin with a full mind and body relaxation in the relaxation posture, with eyes closed and using the complete breathing technique. Within your body, focus on the genitals and buttocks. Totally give into relaxation in the root Chakra. Feel your sexuality grow in intensity. The more relaxed the muscles, the more expanded and open your lower region will feel. Allow this open, expanded feeling to spread into your legs and up through your torso and arms. Let your head become a part of the wholeness. You will be experiencing a higher vibrational frequency. Go with it. Enjoy this part of the meditation for seven to ten minutes or longer.

CLOSURE

Lie motionless, breathing gently, and go over in
your mind the meditation session.
Support yourself emotionally and spiritually with some affirmations:

My experience of the moment is more grounded, centered and self-aware; I can sense my consciousness expanding.

Something fresh and new is happening in me
on this path of love and light.

I TRUST MYSELF

Now rise and wash hands thoroughly to neutralize the energy. Rearrange room, plan a special treat for yourself and continue to be immersed in the new life present throughout your body.

Heart's Desire
WANTS & NEEDS

You may want to have more needs met,
and need to have more wants met.

How often are you really given permission to ask for what you want? This generally happens at Christmas time and birthdays. How often do you give yourself permission to ask for what you want? Actually, how in touch are you with what you really want? For some, having what you want is a notion that needs to be disregarded for a more responsible lifestyle. Really having what we are needing and wanting and seeking to attain these things, whether they be physical, psychological or spiritual, and being truly responsible for ourselves is synonymous.

Where we get into trouble is when our needs and wants seem to contradict each other. This is when we need to refine and get to the bottom line so that our needs and wants work together. To really be an adult in this world in pursuit of fulfilling our potential to fully self-actualize, we need to be in touch with our deepest heart's desires. As we discover our deepest heart's desires, we are drawn along on our spiritual path. Our desires are a guide leading us ever closer to what is meant for us. Our desires may change. This is just a part of the process. It is the release of desire that gives us peace in the moment, a respite, an oasis, in the midst of the pursuit of accomplishment.

To get in touch with your wants and needs of the moment, ask yourself some questions. What yearnings do I feel, if any? Where do I feel these yearnings in my body? What are these yearnings telling me about myself? Are there two or more yearnings in opposition to each other? Can I now get to the core of what is really arising?

Close your eyes and meditate on these questions. You will find in the end, the deepest heart's desire is greater self-love, and to connect with God or Divinity.

What is the most loving thing you can do for yourself ,right now? This is an important question for you to carry with you throughout the day, to keep you on track in your spiritual path of greater self-love and unconditional love for others. It is love that fulfills our deepest needs spiritually and psychologically. And we can be guided by love in the attainment of material wealth. It is important to keep in mind that if your desire is in conflict with another's, there must be a deeper desire in both of you that is mutual. This is the nature of the universe, a spiritual principle.

Come into the next section with an open mind and an open heart. Allow yourself to get to the bottom of those aching needs inside, and see what you can do to allow them to surface and be rinsed away, replaced with deeper love, self compassion and an empowering reinforcer that says, "You really can have what you want. It is okay. It is the way it was meant to be."

Continue striving for your deepest heart's desires, and let go to experience peace and love with yourself in the moment. When we let go, we give room to allow what was meant for us to come to us. We still need to do the foot work. Life is not an easy journey, but really it is the only one that matters. Go for it!

MEDITATIONS

CREATING A SACRED SPACE

While creating your sacred space for this meditation, place a few additional objects of sentimental value in the room. Pick objects that help you feel more in touch with your heart Chakra like a picture of your beloved, your teddy bear, a gift from a special friend or something you made. Let yourself get sentimental.

RELAXATION

Get ready to settle into your relaxation following the same guidelines as before. Bathe your mind with the mantra So Hum, add the visualization of bathing all of the cells of your body with white light as you inhale, and exhale toxins, unwanted energy into the universe to be transformed. The exhale may take on a murky tone. Now begin.

OPENING THE HEART

After your relaxation slowly read these instructions, and lie back with your special objects close to you. You may want to hold them and look at them. Focus on really getting in touch with the sentiment these objects hold for you. Feel your heart opening more warmly to love.

Now, with eyes closed, picture the faces, in detail, of people you love one at a time. Notice their expressions and your feelings their faces evoke. Let any pain shift into seeing a purity of consciousness in their eyes. Hear them say, "I love you." Let in all of the realness of meaning these words can hold. Accept the love into your knowing, and gently open allowing it to flow back. Let the faces run across your mind's eye as the love flows through your heart. You may feel different emotions pass through. This is okay. Just keep returning to the love. You may feel like crying. Open up and do so. This release will help you experience greater love yet.

Now let go of all the images and memories, and let the faces shift into a refection of yourself. Look into your own eyes, and say out loud, "I love myself; I LOVE MYSELF." See the emotion in your own eyes. A wide range of emotion can surface as we clear ourselves of old wounds. Really get inside the purity love you have for yourself. Do not feel shy or inhibited. Loving yourself is the greatest thing you can do for yourself as well as those around you.

Spend as much time as you wish just letting your heart open and experiencing love. As the heart opens we can go into what is called suspended animation where our boundaries fall away, and we come into a super awareness state with no thought. Experiencing this open-hearted state with your lover is the ultimate in the Tantric union. All of your Chakras will feel open and expanded. In actuality, all of the Chakras are already open, swirling and vibrant; we are just realigning ourselves with our inherent, rightful state. It is the wave of beauty and bliss, Nirvana, Samadhi, Satori, the kingdom of heaven.

COMMUNICATING WITH THE BODY

Continue with a deep feeling of compassion for self as you carefully read these instructions, and proceed to the second portion of your meditation. Lie very still, and feel inside of yourself. Try to get in touch with what your body is wanting from you, where and how it would liked to be touched, caressed. Serve your body. Listen and give. Continue to follow this process of asking the body what it is wanting, waiting for an answer and giving. Encourage variation in this exercise by asking body parts that usually do not assert their needs as loudly what they are wanting.

Keep moving from one part of the body to another listening and serving. This exercise may seem a bit strange at first, but as you learn to listen more intently to your body the importance will be revealed. Partly, it is about attuning your ability to hear with your internal ears. If you get stuck, just ask the area, "If you could verbalize, what would you say?" Then perk up your internal ears just as you would open your mind's eye. Take about ten to fifteen minutes to go through this process. Remember, the more in touch you are with your own body the more sensitive you will be to the wants and needs of your partners body.

CLOSURE

Lie still for a while and reflect on your session. What did you learn about yourself, your potential for love? Did you take time with yourself; were you patient with yourself? Learn to slow down. Take more time. Be more caring. Rewards will flow from this attitude. As you are ready stretch and stand, wash your hands, rearrange the room and group your special objects in a special place to remind you of how wonderful it feels to really open to greater love for yourself. Be extra good to yourself for the rest of the day.